What Is A Neurotic? The Child Lock

A neurotic person is simply a person who suffers. It suffers a lot. The term "neurosis? is synonymous with "excessive emotional pain?, in the aftermath psicoconductuales involved. These consequences can be of many types (anxieties, phobias, depression, aggression, hyperactivity, addictions, obsessions, fears, personality problems, etc..), But in general, they all share the same nature, a single meaning. What are these? What is and how to cure neurosis? From a psychodynamic approach, we can see from many angles and neurosis, therefore, be defined in several ways. For example, we can say that: 1) The neurosis is a conflict. Certainly, this is the result of a conflict, often unconscious, feelings that the subject feels really but does not dare to accept and display (eg, pain, anger, fear, guilt, addiction, self-loathing, etc.). and the feelings / behaviors that feels obliged, by the education received and / or social requirements, to express. This contradiction, this clash, there is usually a mask "intermediate," a feeling / behavior more or less distorted, which we call symptoms. A set of symptoms called "disorder." 2) The neurosis is a lock. As a result of past conflict and resulting symptoms, the person can not flow easily and adapt to reality, is "stuck", it fails here and there (family, work, social relationships, projects, happiness, etc..) Suffers a lot for that.

As a result, your symptoms are fed and perpetuated.

3) The neurosis is a defense. Against what? Precisely against their most secret and unbearable pain: their indifference, their traumas, fears, repressed feelings, childhood lost forever, your responsibility to take care of himself / herself, and so on. 4) The neurosis is a strategy. Paradoxically, neurotic symptoms also offer advantages because they give the subject the opportunity to be the center of attention, love and pampering claim, mastering the environment, avoiding life and responsibilities, and so on. Thus, the neurotic, for convenience and laziness unconscious, resists unknowingly "cured". 5) Neurosis is immaturity. All this is a manifestation and, in turn, a secret enhancer infantile narcissism, or the neurotic who, basically, is but a frightened child stuck in the past, avoiding life, giving up their freedom. The neurotic, in short, paradoxically clung to their problem, refuses to grow. How to cure neurosis? If this is, as we have seen, the expression of a conflict encrypted, a lock, a defense, a strategy and a form of immaturity, then explore and heal require exposing with courage, the basic conflicts of the subject to, with the therapist's help and support, revive without masks and overcome them with patience and responsibility.

He will have to discover, accept and learn to live with the hard truths about himself and his environment, past and present, have to mourn, rage and abandon their feelings of guilt, must overcome, finally, his last resilience. Then you can assume, without fear, self-esteem and increasing pain more bearable, "no longer need to keep running away from myself, because I am fully able to face my past, my life and my destiny." And only then happiness will start to come into your life. This is the process of psychodynamic therapy. © JOSÉ LUIS CANO http://www.psicodinamicajlc.com/articulos/jlc/024.html GILPsicoterapeuta and Writer